Nh\u00e2n vi\u1ec7c th\u1ea7y c\u00f4 g\u1ecdi h\u1ecdc sinh l\u00e0 “con” \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc<\/p>\n
N\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ed9c \u0111\u00e1o. “Con” l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t danh t\u1eeb d\u00e0nh ri\u00eang \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 gia \u0111\u00ecnh gi\u1eefa cha m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 con c\u00e1i. \u00d4ng b\u00e0 g\u1ecdi con c\u1ee7a con m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 ch\u00e1u. C\u00f4, ch\u00fa, b\u00e1c, d\u00ec, c\u1eadu, m\u1ee3, d\u01b0\u1ee3ng g\u1ecdi con c\u1ee7a anh, ch\u1ecb, em m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 ch\u00e1u… T\u1eeb “con” kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00f9ng trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00e1c. Trong khi, cha m\u1eb9 th\u00ec c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u c\u00e1ch g\u1ecdi kh\u00e1c nhau (m\u1eb9, b\u1ea7m, u, bu, m\u1ec7, m\u1ea1, m\u00e1, th\u1ea7y, cha, ba, b\u1ed1,…) th\u00ec vai con lu\u00f4n m\u00e3i l\u00e0 con, duy nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 con.<\/p>\n
M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 cha m\u1eb9 – con c\u00e1i l\u00e0 duy nh\u1ea5t, thi\u00eang li\u00eang. Kh\u00f4ng ai c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 th\u1ea9m quy\u1ec1n l\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e2m thay th\u1ebf cha m\u1eb9 c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 con c\u00e1i trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. C\u00e1c th\u1ea7y c\u00f4 c\u00f3 d\u00e1m nh\u1eadn m\u00ecnh hi sinh cho h\u1ecdc tr\u00f2 nh\u01b0 cho con m\u00ecnh? B\u1eb1ng m\u1ecdi c\u00e1ch cha m\u1eb9 ph\u1ea3i ki\u1ebfm ti\u1ec1n nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng, c\u1ee9u s\u1ed1ng con c\u00e1i m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ti\u1ec1n t\u1eeb con. Th\u1ea7y c\u00f4 th\u00ec c\u00f3 nh\u1eadn l\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 h\u1ecdc tr\u00f2 th\u00ec c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3ng h\u1ecdc ph\u00ed. Cha m\u1eb9 ngh\u1ec9 vi\u1ec7c, th\u1ee9c \u0111\u00eam khi con \u0111au \u1ed1m. Th\u1ea7y c\u00f4 th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng. V\u1eady n\u00ean khi ai \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ef1 x\u01b0ng l\u00e0 m\u1eb9 c\u1ee7a con m\u00ecnh th\u00ec ta th\u1ea5y n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00fang. N\u1ebfu l\u1ea5y t\u1eeb con ch\u1ec9 cho m\u1ed9t vai kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 cha m\u1eb9 – con c\u00e1i \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t v\u1eeba l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u1eeba l\u00e0 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m kh\u00f4ng ai c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 thay th\u1ebf (c\u1ea3 v\u1ec1 ph\u00e1p lu\u1eadt l\u1eabn l\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e2m). C\u1ee5 H\u1ed3 ng\u00e0y x\u01b0a c\u00f3 t\u1eebng n\u00f3i “Th\u1ea7y thu\u1ed1c nh\u01b0 m\u1eb9 hi\u1ec1n<\/span>” c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i “l\u00e0 m\u1eb9 hi\u1ec1n”. Kh\u00f4ng ai ngo\u00e0i cha m\u1eb9 n\u00ean l\u1ea5y danh ngh\u0129a cha m\u1eb9 \u0111\u1ec3 g\u1ecdi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i con m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 “con”.<\/p>\n Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady “con” trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 cha m\u1eb9 – con c\u00e1i v\u1ed1n d\u0129 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 th\u1ee9 b\u1eadc gi\u1eefa hai th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 c\u00e1ch nhau t\u1eeb 18 n\u0103m tr\u1edf l\u00ean (theo Lu\u1eadt H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n Gia \u0111\u00ecnh) kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea3o ng\u01b0\u1ee3c. Con kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 cha, cha kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 con. V\u00ec gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb th\u1ee9 b\u1eadc \u0111\u00f3, x\u01b0ng h\u00f4 “con” trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o s\u1ef1 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng. T\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngang h\u00e0ng v\u1edbi nhau \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1edfi m\u1edf h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi l\u1eabn nhau, \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tranh lu\u1eadn, t\u1ee9c l\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn sai b\u1ea5t k\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i, vai v\u1ebf.<\/p>\n “Con” v\u1ed1n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t danh t\u1eeb ch\u1ec9 vai ng\u01b0\u1eddi con trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 cha m\u1eb9 con c\u00e1i. Khi d\u00f9ng trong x\u01b0ng h\u00f4 “con” l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ea1i t\u1eeb ch\u1ec9 ng\u00f4i l\u00e2m th\u1eddi do l\u1ea5y t\u1eeb g\u1ed1c l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t danh t\u1eeb. “Con” kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1i t\u1eeb ch\u1ec9 ng\u00f4i chuy\u00ean d\u00f9ng (nh\u01b0 t\u00f4i, ch\u00fang t\u00f4i, ta, ch\u00fang ta, n\u00f3, ch\u00fang n\u00f3). C\u00e1c \u0111\u00e2y hai ch\u1ee5c n\u0103m, h\u1ecdc tr\u00f2 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 v\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi x\u01b0ng “con” v\u1edbi tui th\u00ec tui ch\u1ec9nh ngay, n\u00ean l\u00e0 “em” nh\u01b0 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi. H\u1ecdc tr\u00f2 kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean t\u1ef1 nguy\u1ec7n hay \u00e9p bu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o vai “con” \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng th\u1ea7y c\u00f4 kh\u00f4ng h\u01a1n g\u00ec h\u1ecdc tr\u00f2. Th\u1ea7y c\u00f4 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111i tr\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0i n\u0103m, c\u00f3 kinh nghi\u1ec7m h\u01a1n h\u1ecdc tr\u00f2 v\u00e0i n\u0103m. Th\u1ea7y c\u00f4 kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ecfi h\u01a1n h\u01a1n tr\u00f2 v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng n\u1eb1m trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 \u1edf gia \u0111\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n V\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u1ea1i t\u1ecf ra m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 th\u00e2n v\u1edbi th\u1ea7y c\u00f4 tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e1m \u0111\u00f4ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch g\u1ecdi ch\u1ecb em, anh em tui c\u0169ng s\u1eeda ngay. \u1ede m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00e0o s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef \u0111\u00fang \u1edf m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u00f3. Ra kh\u1ecfi tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc, quen bi\u1ebft th\u00ec ch\u1ecb em, anh em, \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 th\u1ea7y c\u00f4 v\u00e0 em khi t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t x\u01b0ng h\u00f4, m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb b\u1ea5t b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng ngay t\u1eeb c\u00e2u m\u1edf mi\u1ec7ng.<\/p>\n V\u00ec x\u01b0ng h\u00f4 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn qu\u00e1 l\u00e2u, kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1, d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n c\u1ee5m t\u1eeb “c\u00e1c con h\u1ecdc sinh” trong v\u0103n b\u1ea3n \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc l\u1ea1i l\u00e0m n\u00ean chuy\u1ec7n l\u1edbn. Quy \u0111\u1ecbnh n\u00e0o b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u cho ph\u00e9p d\u00f9ng “c\u00e1c con h\u1ecdc sinh” trong nh\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1eddng?<\/p>\n T\u1eeb “con” l\u00fac n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1i t\u1eeb ch\u1ec9 ng\u00f4i l\u00e2m th\u1eddi n\u1eefa m\u00e0 l\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i t\u1eeb. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u1eeb ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n v\u1ecb c\u00e1 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u1eadt. Lo\u1ea1i t\u1eeb n\u00e0y m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng kh\u00e1c nhau. Nh\u01b0 g\u1ecdi “\u00f4ng ch\u1ee7” h\u00e0m \u00fd t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi “con \u1edf” v\u1edbi \u00fd khinh mi\u1ec7t. \u1ede tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc, “\u00f4ng hi\u1ec7u tr\u01b0\u1edfng”, “b\u00e0 hi\u1ec7u tr\u01b0\u1edfng” \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n v\u00e0 “con h\u1ecdc sinh”, tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh v\u1ebf t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng “con \u1edf”. (Thanh H\u1eb1ng, v\u1ec1 c\u1ee5m t\u1eeb “c\u00e1c con h\u1ecdc sinh”)<\/p>\n T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i, “con” l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t t\u1eeb d\u00e0nh ri\u00eang ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 cha m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 con c\u00e1i, “c\u00e1c con h\u1ecdc sinh” \u0111i v\u00e0o v\u0103n b\u1ea3n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u1edbn v\u00ec \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y “con” l\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i t\u1eeb h\u00e0m \u00fd khinh mi\u1ec7t<\/span>.<\/p>\n B\u1ed5 t\u00fac ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c ng\u1eef ph\u00e1p ti\u1ebfng Vi\u1ec7t<\/p>\n Ng\u1eef ph\u00e1p ti\u1ebfng Vi\u1ec7t kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 “m\u1ea1o t\u1eeb”.<\/p>\n Con l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t t\u1eeb d\u00e0nh ri\u00eang ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 cha m\u1eb9 – con c\u00e1i, “c\u00e1c con h\u1ecdc sinh” tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u1edbn v\u00ec \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y “con” l\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i t\u1eeb h\u00e0m \u00fd khinh mi\u1ec7t.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":4783,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[9],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/2020.envisafety.com\/vi221\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4782"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/2020.envisafety.com\/vi221\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/2020.envisafety.com\/vi221\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/2020.envisafety.com\/vi221\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/2020.envisafety.com\/vi221\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4782"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/2020.envisafety.com\/vi221\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4782\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4804,"href":"https:\/\/2020.envisafety.com\/vi221\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4782\/revisions\/4804"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/2020.envisafety.com\/vi221\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4783"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/2020.envisafety.com\/vi221\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4782"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/2020.envisafety.com\/vi221\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4782"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/2020.envisafety.com\/vi221\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4782"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}“C\u00e1c con h\u1ecdc sinh” \u0111i v\u00e0o v\u0103n b\u1ea3n \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng<\/h2>\n
Ph\u1ee5 l\u1ee5c<\/h2>\n
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T\u00e0i li\u1ec7u tham kh\u1ea3o<\/h2>\n
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B\u00e0i vi\u1ebft li\u00ean quan<\/h2>\n
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